Merry Christmas & Happy New Year!

Hello loved ones!

Merry Christmas from our family to yours!  We love this time of year and all it represents.  A lot has happened in our family this year.  As I've reflected on all the change that has taken place I'm reminded of a simple yet profound truth; my God does not change!  Jesus Christ is constant - in fact the Word says He's the same yesterday, today and forever (Hebrews 13:8).  No matter what valleys or mountaintop experiences you've had this year isn't it good to know that God is faithful in every season?

In an earlier blog post I expressed my thoughts on transition.  I wrote this post the night before Scott and I found out that I am pregnant with twins!  Isn't that comical? In my own words transition is exciting, challenging, tiring, elating, fun, emotional and riviting. By definition transition means: movement, passage or change from one position, state, stage, subject, concept, etc., to another; change.

Our year has been full of movement and change.  In July we moved from our home on Anthem Ridge to the comfortable and beautiful home of Scott's parents.  Our church, Grace North, has also transtioned 3 times since April.  We are finally "Home for Christmas" and are settled in our incredible new facility on Opportunity Way!  The Lord has truly worked miracles in each transition.  That is simply because He is a miracle working God!  We can never forget that God is cabable of and desiring to work miracles in all things.  Yes there have been hardships and trials, but the glory of the Lord has been revealed in each circumstance and situation.

Personally, even with major change there have been some fun family experiences we've had!  Here are a few of the highlights of 2010.

In March we enjoyed a wonderful family vacation to Newport Beach, CA which included two days at Disneyland!  This week of relaxation and family time was just what we needed!

 Newport Beach, CA

 Dominic loved the water!

 Scott & James enjoy the beach and waves!

 Disneyland - Jonathan was with us :)

 Dominic and his "best friend" Goofy!

 James and his favorite thing...believe it or not...ice cream!

California Adventure

In June we had the privilege of traveling to Atlanta for Foursquare Convention together with some of the wonderful staff at Grace North Church.

 Me with Stevie Mitchell in the van to the airport.

 On the subway in Atlanta with our co-worship pastors Torrey & Christina

 Torrey & Christina with Becky Casteel from Grace Chapel, Scottsdale

 Us with Marion and Joe Ingegneri

John Rusk (aka: Manian 4 Missions) on the big screen at convention!

In August, the tent that served as "church" for Grace North for 6 months collapsed in a severe rain and wind storm (see a previous post for more details.) Scott and several other pastors were inside the tent but were protected and walked away unharmed.

 GN tent before

GN tent after

The day after the tent collapsed in August, Scott traveled to Haiti with 7 other guys from Grace North to run a basketball camp for the kids and partner together with Foursquare Missionaries and family friends, John & Debbie Booker.  Despite the disaster, Scott and the team left determined and confident to minister the love and salvation message of Jesus Christ.  God used them powerfully!  Approx. 250 people gave their lives to the Lord!

Scott & Torrey Inez (fellow GN pastor and good friend) with some of the beautiful and excited Haitian kids!

Scott instructing a "jump and shoot" workshop.  His interpreter is with him in this picture and the little girl in front really gets it! :)

 

Scott (2nd from right) with most of the guys from Grace North in Haiti.

In September and October, Grace North Church transitioned once again, this time permanently, into our new church facility!  We also found out on October 29th that we are expecting twins. :)

Twins at 13 weeks (I am now - as of Christmas time, 16 1/2 weeks)

Scott exhorting the congregation at our dedication service in November.  Worship team in the background.

Grace North congregation worshipping!

Our Christmas was joyous and restful and we greatly look forward to 2011!  For those who may be wondering, our due date with the twins is June 8th, however we are expecting them to be born in May.  We will keep you updated on their growth. 

We love you, our friends and family, very much!  We pray blessings over your household. 

With Much Love,

Scott, Lydia, Dominic, James & Babies Ingegneri

Surrrrprizzzzeee!

Good morning friends and loved ones!  By now, you may have already heard the phenominal news that we are expecting twins!  Here they are...my two little peanuts!

(Sorry for the somewhat poor quality - taken with my phone.)

On Friday, October 29th we found out about our incredible blessings!  Total elation and shock flooded both Scott and I.  As if it's not exciting enough to find out your pregnant - the news of twins is beyond description!  As the ultrasound tech conducted the external ultrasound I immediately saw a second "blob" hovering above the first twin. At first I wondered what it could be and before the ultrasound tech said anything at all I just knew!  Before I could even ask she announced that there were two perfectly strong heartbeats and we were indeed having twins.  Scott and I both laughed and cried.  Again, it's hard to find words to express that moment.

This weekend has felt like a bit of a whirlwind as we've announced the news to family, friends and our church family.  We've been completely overwhelmed by the support and ecstatic responses of so many.  This is an unknown and new journey we are embarking on.

My last post, entitled TRANSITIONS, was written on Thursday night, the day prior to finding out about the twins.  How timely!  "Transitions" has taken on an entirely new meaning.  I bless the Lord for His incredible faithfulness.  His gifts are overwhelming and He only gives good gifts!  Even though I would have never planned this outcome, I trust that He knows exactly what is best for our family.  I am honored!

Trusting,

Lydia

Transition

Hi Everyone! I'm back!  Don't you hate it when you take longer than you intend to return to something?  I tend to do this with projects like scrapbooking, writing cards...and blogging!  I apologize.  It's on my heart to fill you in on the last few months of my life.  The only word that describes it perfectly is TRANSITION!  Transition is exciting, challenging, tiring, elating, fun, emotional and riviting. 

By definition (I like definitions) transition means: movement, passage or change from one position, state, stage, subject, concept, etc., to another; change.

Well there has been a lot of movement (literally)!  In July we moved from our home on Anthem Ridge to our new residence on Sousa Drive, which is the home of my amazing in-laws, Joe and Marion.  For a season, the Lord has planted us here and we are loving it!  In August, the tent our church was gathering in collapsed in a storm (see previous post for info on that) and we moved into a gym connected to our office building.  For four weeks we had services in the gym.  We were handed the keys to our brand new church facility on Fri, September 24th and had our first services on Sat/Sun October 2nd and 3rd.

On Sunday, September 26th Scott and I found out we are expecting our 3rd child!  This came as an absolutely amazing, wonderful surprize!  I am now 10 weeks and pregnancy symptoms are in full swing. 

I've learned that transition should be embraced rather than avoided.  Transition can be scary.  There is always the unknown, right?  Very rarely has the Lord revealed to me the end result at the beginning of the journey!  Would I embark on the journey if I knew all the bumps, mountains and potholes (in other words - obstacles) I'd encounter?  Probably not! At the beginning of 2010 the Lord spoke to me that I'd encounter some trials, however I was not to loose hope, but rather COUNT IT ALL JOY! (James 1:2-8).  I have stood on this word!  I could never have imagined some of the trials we've faced.  But in the trials I've pressed in to gain a new perspective.  The Lord has taught me some priceless lessons, deepened by faith, and delightfully caused me to walk in His joy, which has been my strength!

If you are in a season of transition, be encouraged!  The Lord is with you.  If you'll open your heart to Him and refuse to walk in fear, you will experience some amazing mountain top experiences even in what may seem like a valley. 

James 1:2-8 "My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, 3 knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience.  4 But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing.  5 If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him.  6 But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind.  7 For let not that man suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; 8 he is a double-minded man,  unstable in all his ways."

Counting It All Joy,
Lydia

Grace North Tent Down...Grace North Church Stands!

I am priviledged to serve as a pastor at Grace North Church in Phoenix, Arizona.  We have been meeting in a tent since April 25th, 2010, while our new facility is being built.  On Tuesday, August 24th our tent collapsed due to a powerful monsoon/storm that swept through the area.  The collapse of the tent destroyed everything inside of our tent, including televions, speakers, sound equipment and chairs.  Four of our pastors, including my husband Scott, were in the tent when the wind swept through, causing the tent to fall on top of them.  By the mercy and protection of the Lord, Scott and the other pastors are safe and suffered no injuries. 

Outside of tent BEFORE

Inside of tent BEFORE

Outside of tent AFTER

Inside of tent AFTER

The occurance was a huge shock to our staff and church and has caused us to hear God quickly and move quickly!  We did not expect to end our season of "tent days" in this manner.  Our new facility will be complete within 4-6 weeks, so the immediate question is "Where do we go from here?"

I am sure you are familiar with the story of Moses and the responsibility that rested on his shoulders to lead the Israelites out of captivity into the Promised Land.  I can only imagine how often he cried out to God for wisdom, answers and directions.  The pressure on this man's shoulders to lead millions of grumblers was not an easy burden to bear. Well, Grace North is certainly NOT full of grumblers, however there is still a responsibility to lead in the midst of the storm!

My pastor, Marion Ingegneri, who is also my mother-in-love, said it well today: When the cloud moved, so did the people!  God did not give warnings to the Israelites.  The instruction of the Lord to them was to move when the cloud moved and to make camp when the cloud did not move. God has provided covering and shelter for us until our facility is complete.  We will congregate in the gymnasium connected to our church office complex with family style services. 

Grace North are a people moving forward!  We are not fearful, doubtful or anxious about our future.  A church is not walls, the people are the church.  So we, as a church, will obey and trust in this very interesting and adventurous season!

I love my church and I love my God!  I look forward to filling you in on the miracles to come.
Lydia

'10-10 Important Announcement'

'10-10 Important Announcement'

"Nuggets" I'm Pondering

The past month has been saturated with incredible encounters with God and amazing ministers who have spoken at my home church, Grace North Church in Anthem, AZ.  My church is currently in a time of transition between facilities, so our temporary dwelling place is a tent in the middle of the desert.  Yes, you read correctly...a tent in the middle of the desert!  Here are a few pictures :)

Isn't it awesome?!  We are calling our tent days a time of revival, which they truly are.  Our slogan for these memorable days is "THE HEAT IS ON".  Appropriate, don't you think?  We've enjoyed several special guest speakers as well as a week away in Atlanta, Georgia for the International Foursquare Convention. 

My heart is full and there are some nuggets of truth and revelation I've received over the past month (from pastors and speakers at Grace North and Foursquare Convention in Atlanta) that I thought you may like to hear. Have fun chewing!

Lydia

"What Jesus can do He wants to do.  There is no brokenness in Jesus." - Leslie Keegal
"There are factual obstacles, but faith laughs at obstacles!" - Leslie Keegal

"The people of God should be desperate all the time, not only in difficult times." - Scott Ingegneri
"Desperate people go to desperate measures to bear fruit." - Scott Ingegneri

"God wants to include you in the celebration of the harvest. Failure to repent causes God to send someone to eat your harvest." (Jer. 5:17) - Marion Ingegneri
"I don't have anything more important to do than preach the gospel." - Marion Ingegneri

"The enemy is not another person.  When we get confused about who the enemy is, we fight against each other." - Harold Helms
"There is nothing as sinful as to be in the middle of sin and not see it." - Harold Helms

"Why would we need The Comforter if we're comfortable?" - Francis Chan
"You're not being humble when you degrade yourself.  You're putting the Almighty God down." - Francis Chan

"Learn how to connect with the world.  Find common ground with the secular community.  If you don't find common ground you cannot take them to higher ground." - John C. Maxwell

"When we "share" the leadership we have greater impact." - James Ranger

"Unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die." - Dale Jenkins
"The church isn't a cruise ship.  It's a rescue boat!" - Dale Jenkins

"A captivating speaker does not change a life.  The Word does." - Jerry Dirmann

"Multiply = invest yourself in someone with the goal of that person being much better you." - Serafin Contreras
"Every person God brings into your life is intended for fruitfulness.  Don't eat the fruit and throw away the seeds." - Serafin Contreras

"God wants you to be you.  Be happy and free!  Free people act differently because it's not about them." - Ricky Temple
"There is no victory without a challenge." - Ricky Temple

"Any idols you lean on will lean on you." - Glenn Burris, Jr.

"Money follows vision! Provision follows the heartbeat of God." - Bill Page
"The success of others should not diminish you." - Bill Page

"Don't hurry through the wilderness." (Zach. 4) - Rosemary Putman

"God does not live in reality.  Whatever you see as a mountain, God does not see as a mountain." - John Putman
"Do not make decisions based on facts.  Entrust the facts to God." - John Putman

"Embrace others reality." - John Booker
"It's tough to do what's vital.  God is calling the American church out of comfort." - John Booker

"When you worship, house cleaning takes place!" - Caleb Quaye
"The essence of breakthrough worship is thanksgiving." - Caleb Quaye

In Honor Of My Two Boys...

I adore my children!  Recently they just celebrated birthdays.  James turned 2 on May 29th and Dominic turned 4 on June 8th.  First of all, I can hardly believe that!  All you moms are probably nodding your heads in agreement; reflecting on the thought that time flies!  All of a sudden my firstborn is 4 and my newborn is 2!

These pictures truly reflect the personalities of my little men.  They both bring unsurpassable amounts of joy and laughter and touch my heart each day in a new way. 

Dominic has a habit of constantly drinking out of my water bottle on a daily basis.  The other day in a slightly frustrated manner Scott asked him "Why do you always have to drink out of mommy's cup?" In a most sincere, honest and matter of fact reply Dominic answered "Because you're so sweet and wonderful mommy!"  I melted...

James is a cuddle bug and currently is all about mommy.  As frustrating as this can be at times (only because he wants me to hold him all the time) it is also very precious and I'm simply giving in because soon he'll be all about something else!  Scott and I were recently on a week-long trip away from the boys.  One evening I called to say good-night to the kids but unfortunetely I made James very upset and he began to scream on the phone.  He thought we were coming to get him and didn't understand why I had been gone so long.  As sad as it was to hear James cry, it was also heart-warming to know he missed me!

As parents we are used to expressing love towards our child or children.  However it is something very special when your child begins to express and show love towards you; beyond the hug or kiss on the lips (don't get me wrong, those are very special too).  I am so grateful for the expression of love.  Sometimes you know it's coming and other times it jumps out and surprizes you.  I don't want to take any of the special "love" moments with my boys for granted.  They are so special!

I'd love to hear what qualities you admire about your children or a funny/cute "love" story.  Please comment!

Lovingly,

Lydia

A Virtuous Woman - Ruth

I recently read the story of Ruth.  I absolutely love this passage of scripture! I have read it many times but always glean something new from it each time I read it.  I greatly admire the qualities that Ruth possessed. To name a few:  courage, integrity, loyalty, trust and honor.  What an amazing woman!  Something caught my attention as I came to the part of the story where Ruth is laying at the feet of Boaz. 

Ruth 3:13 - And now, my daughter, do not fear. I will do for you all that you request, for all the people of my town know that you are a virtuous woman.

Ruth already had a reputation in the town of being a woman of virtue.  Who was this foreign widow who clung to the side of her mother-in-law and returned to a land and people she did not know?  Who would do that?  Ruth's sister-in-law Orpah, returned to her family when Naomi commanded her to.  Why didn't Ruth?  Ruth was insistent!  You can probably envision Ruth at Naomi's side begging her not to force her to return to Moab.  There was no way Ruth was returning to her former life! 

A bit of history: Naomi, her husband Elimelech and their two sons were from Judea.  Because of drought in the land of Judah they settled in Moab because Moab was not experiencing drought.  Their stay in Moab was to be temporary.  However, Elimelech and Naomi's son's married Moabite women, Ruth being one of them.  Unfortunetely Naomi's husband and sons died.  However, Ruth learned something about YAHWEH from her new family.  She had an understanding of the living God.  Ruth was determined that her future, even without a husband, would not look anything like her past.  

Therefore she clung!  Part of walking in virtue is walking away from the past, rejecting sin, unidentifying with the past and embracing Jesus and His plan and future.  Ruth had no idea what she'd face in Israel, however the Lord greatly rewarded her obedience. 

The challenge I received from reading Ruth was simply this - cling!  Sometimes it takes everything you've got to hold on, especially in scary seasons or a season of the unknown.  It is certainly not always easy to turn away from the familiar to something completely unfamiliar.  But great is our reward when we follow Jesus and trust Him completely with our lives.  He promises in His word that He'll never leave us nor forsake us and He also promises life more abundantly.  And I must add that I love the part where the Lord grants Ruth the desires of her heart! 

If we will walk in the way of obedience and trust with our Lord and hold on tight in the midst of the journey, He will will lead us to incredible places. 

He will restore!  He will provide!  He will redeem! This is the God we serve!

Clinging...
Lydia

 

Lovingkindness

Today the Lord spoke to me about lovingkindness.  Isn't that such a wonderful word?  My heart swells when I ponder upon that word.  The exact meaning of lovingkindness means "motivated by affection." Wow...God's actions, heart, words and thought towards us are motivated by the deep affection He has for you and me.  Everything the Lord does is motivated by a great affection!

Psalm 51:1 says "Have mercy upon me, O God, according to Your lovingkindness; according to the multitude of Your tender mercies, blot out my transgressions."

Be blessed today as you receive His lovingkindness!

Lydia

The Importance of Routine

"A wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands." - Proverbs 14:1 (NKJV)

I've had several conversations these past few weeks where the topic of a routine has been brought up AND just how important a routine is!  Most women and mom's have a daily routine that includes the entire household.  If you are a woman who follows a daily schedule or routine you're probably shouting AMEN right now!  Having a routine keeps me sane!  I have two small boys (almost 4 and 2) and I am also a wife and full-time pastor.  I cannot imagine my life without the order a routine creates.  Often I've been asked this question: How do you do all that you do?  The answer: I have a routine!

Sometimes creating, implementing and maintaining a schedule/routine is daunting and overwhelming.  However, it doesn't have to be!  I'll admit that I personally felt completley overwhelmed by my life prior to implementing what I call my "God schedule".  Ok, that might sound kind of strange so let me explain!

Several years ago (3 to be exact) I was at the end of myself.  Externally things looked ok and I appeared to make it from point A to point B pretty well.  Internally it was a different story.  I knew I was not living up to the standard that I was convicted in my heart to live by the Holy Spirit, nor was the stewardship of my time and efforts effective for me, my family and ministry. 

As this issue of stewardship (or lack of stewardship) was surfacing in my heart I had a divine connection with one of my mentors.  While visiting her home in California she asked me what my biggest struggle was.  I had no intention of bringing up the fact that I felt like I lived in constant chaos until the words started pouring out and it was obvious I needed some guidance.  (Let me just interject right here and encourge you that if you don't have a Godly mentor in your life, get one!)

My mentor stopped everything she was doing and sat me down at her kitchen table.  She pulled out a piece of paper and a pen and said, "start writing!"  "Start writing what?", I asked. She answered, "write down every single thing you do in a week.  Everything from houswork to devotions, family time, alone time, appointments, meeting, etc.  Write it all down!"

So...I started writing.  Within minutes the page was full!  My life....every single detail...on paper.  Again, I felt overwhelmed.  Then my mentor said these words.  "Now take that list to the Lord and ask Him where it all fits.  Ask Him to orchestrate every single task and responsibility in your life.  Once He has told when and where to fit it all in, write it down on your weekly calendar...then do it!" 

Two emotions rushed through me...relief and stupidity!  Why hadn't I thought of this before???  But that feeling didn't last too long.  Actually, I was excited to once and for all relenquish this burden to the Lord and fully make Him Lord in this area.  On the plane ride home I pulled out my piece of paper and prayed for the Lord to show me where all the pieces fit.  It's amazing how quickly the Holy Spirit began to speak to me.  As I submitted myself to the leading of the Holy Spirit He faithfully guided and directed my path. 

You see, there was a dying to self that had to occur in this process.  My life isn't my life...it's HIS life!   I have no business doing everything I want to do when I want to do it.  He is my Savior AND Lord, right?  If that's the case, if He is Lord (which means master, decision maker, controller) then shouldn't He have a say as to what I do and don't do and when I do it?

Jesus asked His disciples and the multitudes this question:
"But why do you call Me 'Lord, Lord,' and not do the things which I say?" - Luke 6:46

This way of thinking is not legalism.  My way of living is a response to the God-said in my life.  I am not saying I never get to go and do anything fun or relaxing or enjoyable.  On the contrary, my life is full of fun things.  In fact, I can enjoy what I do more and walk about with a greater sense of peace and freedom knowing I have faithfully completed what needs to get done and stewarded my time well.  Those pesky details fail to linger over me and distract me.  The greatest call on my life is to be a mom and wife and to manage my home well.  My ministry is unto my family, first and foremost.  If I am not faithful in this the Lord will not entrust me with greater things. 

So, a routine...a word that may cause you to feel stifled or restricted, may just be your path to greater freedom.  Be encouraged today to humble yourself before the Lord; submit your plan, your desires, your schedule and allow Him to fully be Lord of your life.  Allow Him to orchestrate your day.  You'll be so glad you did!

"The humble shall see [this and] be glad; And you who seek God, your hearts shall live." - Psalm 69:32 (NKJV)

Living Life With You,
Lydia

Walking In Confidence - His Workmanship

I was recently on vacation in sunny, sandy California listening to the roar of waves and admiring my children as they made sand castles and heaved sand in the air! They were beauitful, carefree and confident! Just like our Lord, the Master Craftsman, designed us all to be.

Over the years I have gone through a process of becoming confident in who I am as a daughter of the King, a wife, a mom and a friend.  It was a process that caused me to move beyond being comfortable with who am to confident in who I am. There is a big difference isn't there? Confidence doesn't always equal cockiness.  Although unfortunetely if conficence is not not walked out in grace and humility, confidence can certaily come across as arrogance.  In my growth experience of becoming confident, it just means that I've been set free from some horrible mindsets that were displeasing to God and giving pleasure to the enemy.

I'm sure you've heard the phrase "comfortable in your own skin."  If you happen to be "comfortable in your own skin" that is wonderful and a huge accomplishment! For me personally, I don't want to stop at being comfortable. Have you noticed how many women struggle with identity, insecurity and self-confidence issues? Maybe you do. I certainly did and each day I make a choice to believe what Gods word says about me.

One of my life scriptures is Ephesians 2:10 - "For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them."

As a teenager and young adult I struggled with insecurity and rejection issues until I had a life changing revelation about the depth and width of Gods love for me.  A breakthrough occured when I realized that I am His workmanship!  The Master Craftsman, the Creator of the universe and all that I see and experience, is the God who created me!  This is no accident!  I am not an accident and neither are you.

To walk in confidence (God-confidence, that is) you must identify the barriars.  What holds you back?  One of my barriars was fear of man.  I was so wrapped up in what others thought of me and spent so much time and energy focused on pleasing people, rather than focusing my attention on pleasing the Lord.  I ended up unfulfilled, frustrated, hurt and stifled as a result.  I lacked self-confidence because I looked to people, not God.  Let's remember ladies - our goal is to please the heart of the Father, not to be a people pleaser!

Take a minute and examine yourself.  Do you have fear?  Does fear steal your confidence or stifle you in any way?  You will not walk about in freedom if you are bound in unbelief or doubt your identity. 

Remember when Peter walked on the water?  The key to his staying afloat was keeping his eyes fixed on Jesus!  It was in Jesus that Peter had confidence to walk on the water.  It is when we keep our eyes on Christ Jesus, the Master Craftsman, that we have confidence to walk out and perform the good works that He has prepared for us.  Don't leave out the last part of Ephesians 2:10....that we should walk in them!

When I fulled grasped what Ephesians 2:10 is saying it brough so much freedom to my life!

• Because I am HIS workmanship, I am complete!  Nothing is wrong with me! I am in Christ and Christ is in me.
• I am created to do good works that He has planned and prepared for me.  I don't have to conjur anything up, or try to be like anyone else.  God has a special plan and purpose for me!  
• When I walk in His will I am fulfilled.  When I walk in my will, I am unfulfilled.  

This is just part one of walking in confidence!  More to come soon....

Walk Confidently,
Lydia

I'd Like To Hear From You!

Good evening readers,

I'd really like to hear from you!  Maybe there is a pondering thought or question in your mind that you'd like some clarity on.  Whether it's regarding Proverbs 31 or anything regarding things we as face as women I'd be more than willing and happy to write about it.  You're welcome to ask me questions about my life and personal experiences as well.  It's important to me that I stay connected with you and write about things that are important to your heart.  With that said, send in your requests!

Looking forward to hearing from you,
Lydia

Mentoring 101: Somebody's Watching You

Each month I have the privilege of speaking to a fabulous group of women from my church.  This group also includes women from the surrounding area of the community I live in.  I have often asked the ladies this question: If you are an older woman could you please stand up?  Usually the 50-60+ crowd will tentatively stand to their feet with a sheepish grin on their face.  I mean come on....who wants to classify themselves as an older woman?  I know in their minds they must be thinking, "Geez, thanks Lydia!"  Once I know I have royally embarrassed the brave, honest ones who stood to their feet I then ask this question: "Why isn't every woman in this room standing up?"

The point I'm trying to get at is that no matter your age you are an older woman and somebody is watching you!  If the phrase "somebody is watching you" completely freaks you out, let me rephrase my thought - somebody is looking up to you!

I realized this when I was about 15 years old, however I didn't really "get it" till years later.  One Sunday after church an 8 year girl from the congregation ran up to me and said, "Lydia, I love you so much!  I want to be just like you when I grow up!"  I was stunned!  On the other hand I understood her desire to become like someone she admired because I too, had that same desire.  As a 15 year old young woman there were several older women I looked up to and greatly admired.  Some from afar, and some I had the privilege of knowing on a personal level.

I consider myself extremely fortunate to have had strong mentors in my life.  Now I have the great honor of mentoring other women.  I recognize that not everyone has been blessed with mentoring relationships in their life.  But I want to encourage you that it's never too late to give yourself away or begin receiving from another person.

You see, mentoring isn't as hard you think it may be.  There are some lingering questions that surround this topic and often times hinder us from living a lifestyle of mentoring.


1.  WHY ME?  First of all, mentoring is biblical.  (Read Titus 2) I didn't make this up!  My motto is if it's in the bible, we should be doing it.   Secondly, you have something to give!  God has blessed you with spiritual gifts, life experience, insights, Godly and practical wisdom that others need to hear about and experience.

2.  WHAT WILL THIS REQUIRE OF ME? Truth be told, mentoring will require time and a conscious effort invested in building relationships.  There are formal mentorships and informal mentorships.  I have engaged in both formats of mentoring and have received greatly as both a mentor and a mentoree.  Most importantly, mentoring requires a willing and submitted heart!

In my own words, mentoring is about how you live your life.  Almost daily I remind myself of this truth - "Today you will have an opportunity to influence and impact the life of another woman with your actions and words.  What are you going to do about it?"  We're naive if we think that our actions aren't noticed and that our words aren't being listened to.

If you are a Mother, Wife, Sister, Daughter, Grandmother, Aunt, Friend, Teacher, Pastor, Leader, Neighbor or Employer you are a mentor! Why? Because somebody is watching you!

In a former post entitled "What Get's You Noticed" I listed some Godly characteristics I notice in other women.  Take a moment and think through some characteristics in other women that draws your attention.  Then think about your own words and actions.  What stands out?  Are you a reactor who lashes out in frustration or a responder who answers with grace and love even in those frustrating moments?  Trust me ladies, I work really hard at this every single day!   It's a daily choice and I certainly cannot be the example, leader and mentor I am called to be without the power of the Holy Spirit in my life daily; continually!

So my first challenge to you in mentoring is BE WILLING!

I close with one of my favorite passage of scripture from Titus 2...it says it all!

Titus 2:1-8 (The Message)
"Your job is to speak out on the things that make for solid doctrine.  Guide older men into lives of temperance, dignity, and wisdom, into healthy faith, love and endurance.  Guide older women into lives of reverence so they end up as neither gossips nor drunks, but models of goodness.  By looking at them, the younger women will know how to love their husbands and children, be virtuous and pure, keep a good house, be good wives.  We don't want anyone looking down on God's Message because of their behavior.  Also, guide the young men to live disciplined lives.  But mostly, show them all this by doing it yourself, incorruptible in your teaching, your words solid and sane.  Then anyone who is dead set against us, when he finds nothing weird or misguided, might eventually come around." 

Growing Together With You,
Lydia

Thank You, Everyone!

I just wanted to say thank you to those of you who have taken the time to read my blog, post comments and share your thoughts with me.  I am completely overwhelmed by your responses and humbled by your embrace!  This is a completely new experience for me.  I was a bit tentative at first but am so glad I took the plunge and stepped out in an act of obedience to the Lord; I was skeptical at first! 

I am currently on vacation with my family and enjoying an awesome, relaxing week at the ocean.  I'll be posting again in a few days.

Bless you,
Lydia

Trustworthy

Just recently I celebrated my 7 year wedding anniversary!  I absolutely love being married to my husband Scott, who is my best friend and partner in life. I am seeing more and more as the days, weeks, months and years go by how we complete each other.  His gifts and abilities strengthen me; my gifts and abilities strengthen him.  Marriage truly is a partnership!  As a married woman, it is my responsibility to do all I can to strengthen, support, encourage and minister to my husband. 

Proverbs 31:11-12 says: "The heart of her husband safely trusts her; so he will have no lack of gain.  She does him good and not evil all the days of her life."

I emphasis the word "trust" in this scripture because it seems to jump out at me.  Let me back up for a moment.

Lately the Lord has been revealing to me some areas of my life where I need to step up to the plate - specifically regarding my role as the home manager.  I am always amazed at the wide range of gifts, talents and abilities the Proverbs 31 woman has.  This morning I had yet another revelation about our role model (the Prov 31 woman)...she probably had to work very hard to become better at the areas she lacked.  Let's face it...we are not perfect!  Darn it!  It's going to take some hard work ladies to become as diligent, consistent, thorough and knowledgable as we are called to be.

A huge key in marriage is to gain the trust of your husband.  This is accomplished by doing what you say you will do.  Be a woman of your word!  Follow through on home tasks - especially the areas you dislike.  For example: laundry or keeping the bills organized.  Become an expert at it!  Go the extra mile, especially in the areas you are inclined to ignor or put on the back burner.  Quite honestly, your husband shouldn't have to worry about if you went over budget this month.  Learn how to be wise shopper; a frugal spender.  If you have a household budget - stick to it!  Earn your husbands trust.  Don't be the cause of his stress! 

Let's take it one step further - remember what I said at the top of this post?  Marriage is a partnership.  In order for any partnership to work each person has to do their part - and do it well!  Right now the Olypmics are in full swing.  I am completely amazed by the Ice Dancing!  In the sport of Ice Dance you must be connected to your partner throughout the entire performance, except for a few moments where you are separted to show off foot work and spinning elements.  Other than that, you are literally dancing across the ice, connected to your partner the entire time.  There has to be a full trust and confidence in each skater for the partnership to work.  Can you imagine if the female ice dancer decided to skate off, away from her partner and do her own thing?  It would completely ruin the performance and surely disappoint her partner! 

There are many distractions that come about in daily life...trust me...I know!  However in marriage - a partnership, we don't have the liberty to go off and do our own thing.  There is a training involved, just as with ice dancing, to become an expert.  It's called discipline - day in and day out! 

Become trustworthy!  It's worth it.

I leave you today with this reminder from Proverbs 31:28-29: "Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: many daughters have done well, but you excell them all."

Trustworthy,
Lydia

What Get's You Noticed?

Generally, women spend more time focusing on the outside appearance (hair, clothes, make-up) rather than the inside (mind, soul, spirit, condition of her heart).  The Word reminds us that it's what's on the inside that is important.  There is nothing more beautiful than a woman who fears the Lord!  The truth is, if you're spending more time on the outward rather than cultivating a heart after God, you're missing it!

Proverbs 31:30 (NKJV) says "Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised."

I'll admit, it feels great when someone compliments my outfit or notices how great my hair looks when I have a really good hair day.  But honestly, nothing blesses me more when someone compliments my character, or thanks me for the fact that when they poured out their heart to me I actually stopped and listened and took time to pray with them. 

Ultimately, women are seeking to learn and model their lives after a woman of character, not neccessarily a beautiful woman. 

Here are some things that make an impression on me when it comes to other women:

• She is comfortable in her own skin; confidence
• She is more concerned about others than herself
• She knows how to balance taking care of herself physically without being consumed by it
• Her words are seasoned with salt
• She responds and doesn't react
• She knows the Word
• Her home life is stable and she values peace and order in her home; not surrounded by chaos and stress
• Others speak well of her; good reputation
• She has a solid marriage and good relationship with her children
• Her friendships are intact and growing; no strife

These are just a few of the things that I notice - probably because these are the things I pray other women see in me.

So, what get's you noticed?  Think about it.  Sometimes it's good to just sit and think!  When someone thinks of you or your name is mentioned, what would you want other people to say about you?  Are you too wrapped up in the outward appearance or is the condition of your heart of greater value?

By the way, the outward appearance represents more than just your person - it represents your possessions, too (house, car, things, etc.)

Take a day or two to examine your speech, your thoughts, your actions and your motives.  You'll learn alot!  The important thing to always remember is that God looks at your heart, not your flesh (the inside, not the outside).  God certainly cares about your physical needs; the clothes you wear and the food you eat.  But He doesn't want you to be concerned, consumed or overwhelmed by those things.

The Word says:
1 Samuel 16:7 - But the Lord said to Samuel, "Do not look at his appearance or physical stature, because I have refused him.  For the Lord does not see as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart."

Proverbs 4:23 - Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life.

My charge to you...get noticed for the right reasons!
Lydia

All the single ladies say...Heeyyyyyy!

Single and satisfied or single and ungratified?  That is the question.  Either way, as a single woman you have a HUGE opportunity to grasp something that many married women only wish they would of grasped before marriage.

Proverbs 31:10 says "Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies."

So why is this post dedicated to all you single lovely ladies?  For this reason - becoming a virtuous wife starts long before marriage.

Let's look at this verse again...."Who can FIND a virtuous wife?"

To find something you obviously have to search.  Your future husband is looking for Godly characteristics in his future bride.  Virtue, among other Godly character traits, is established before you get married.  Sure, you will continue to grow and deepen this extremely important characteristic every day of your life, however, the things your future man is searching for are being developed within you now, before marriage.

Let's face it, once you're married your attention is divided.  Once you have kids, it's really divided! This isn't bad of course, unless you completely neglect your time with the Lord and focus only on the man and munchkins.   The reality is this...time and priorities become more difficult to manage and balance once you are married and become a mom.

When you're single, you have a couple advantages.

#1. TIME - Simply stated - when you're single you have more time.  I'm not saying that the things you are involved in are not important.  They probably are.  But if you're not married, you don't have a husband to look after and if you don't have kids you obviously aren't responsible to raise children yet.  You have more time to give to the Lord and more time dedicated to focus on the things of God.

The Word says this:
1 Corinthians 7:34-35 (NKJV) "There is a difference between a wife and a virgin.  The unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit.  But she who is married cares about the things of the world - how she may please her husband.  35 And this I say for your own profit, not that I may put a leash on you, but for what is proper, and that you may serve the Lord without distraction."


#2. LESS DISTRACTIONS - When you're married and have kids you spend a lot of time taking care of your family.  This is a good thing and is certainly honorable and right before the Lord.  As I stated earlier, it can be difficult to balance your time and priorities.  When you're single, you don't have as many distractions to worry about.  There are certainly lots of things that can easily distract you whether you're married or single.  Take the opportunity as a single woman to learn how to manage your time.  Become distracted with the things of God!

I exhort all you single ladies....don't wallow in despair that your man has not come along just yet!  He will...the Lord knows your heart and your desires.  Focus on becoming a woman of virtue now!  Don't wait to live by this timeless principle.

I'm rooting for you and I believe in you!
Lydia

Welcome...

Dear Proverbs 31 Woman...Welcome!

Yes that's right...you are a Proverbs 31 woman whether you feel like one or not!  Whether you are married, single, divorced, widowed, young or old, you are a Proverbs 31 woman.  Most of us have heard about this super chic who does it all.  Is it even possible to attain such character and live to such a high standard and still keep your sanity?  Well, in your own strength the answer is no.  However, if you accept the call to live this way and partner with the Holy Spirit in your life it is absolutely attainable!  By the way - don't worry.  It's not as hard as you think!

I'm learning daily how to live as a Proverbs 31 woman.  I have by no means mastered this lifestyle.  Each day I'm faced with a choice to live, think, speak, act, organize, prepare, plan, lead, parent, shepard and love better than I did the day before.  Oh yes, each day presents its challenges, however, when you understand how you are called to live it makes all the difference!

There is a call of God on Christian women to live at a higher level.  Well, all Christians actually.  You may have heard the terms "above reproach" or "in this world but not of it."  Living like everyone else just won't cut it.  We cannot fall into the trap of conforming to this world; to what our society says is acceptable.  We need to conform ourselves TO the Word and be transformed BY the Word!

Proverbs 31 is the standard for me.  It's my personal challenge to be a woman of virtue, character, integrity, honesty, diligence, consistency, hospitality, creativity, wisdom and strength. 

I ask you to accept the call and receive the challenges that Proverbs 31 present to us as women!

Are you with me?
Lydia