Single and satisfied or single and ungratified? That is the question. Either way, as a single woman you have a HUGE opportunity to grasp something that many married women only wish they would of grasped before marriage.
Proverbs 31:10 says "Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies."
So why is this post dedicated to all you single lovely ladies? For this reason - becoming a virtuous wife starts long before marriage.
Let's look at this verse again...."Who can FIND a virtuous wife?"
To find something you obviously have to search. Your future husband is looking for Godly characteristics in his future bride. Virtue, among other Godly character traits, is established before you get married. Sure, you will continue to grow and deepen this extremely important characteristic every day of your life, however, the things your future man is searching for are being developed within you now, before marriage.
Let's face it, once you're married your attention is divided. Once you have kids, it's really divided! This isn't bad of course, unless you completely neglect your time with the Lord and focus only on the man and munchkins. The reality is this...time and priorities become more difficult to manage and balance once you are married and become a mom.
When you're single, you have a couple advantages.
#1. TIME - Simply stated - when you're single you have more time. I'm not saying that the things you are involved in are not important. They probably are. But if you're not married, you don't have a husband to look after and if you don't have kids you obviously aren't responsible to raise children yet. You have more time to give to the Lord and more time dedicated to focus on the things of God.
The Word says this:
1 Corinthians 7:34-35 (NKJV) "There is a difference between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit. But she who is married cares about the things of the world - how she may please her husband. 35 And this I say for your own profit, not that I may put a leash on you, but for what is proper, and that you may serve the Lord without distraction."
#2. LESS DISTRACTIONS - When you're married and have kids you spend a lot of time taking care of your family. This is a good thing and is certainly honorable and right before the Lord. As I stated earlier, it can be difficult to balance your time and priorities. When you're single, you don't have as many distractions to worry about. There are certainly lots of things that can easily distract you whether you're married or single. Take the opportunity as a single woman to learn how to manage your time. Become distracted with the things of God!
I exhort all you single ladies....don't wallow in despair that your man has not come along just yet! He will...the Lord knows your heart and your desires. Focus on becoming a woman of virtue now! Don't wait to live by this timeless principle.
I'm rooting for you and I believe in you!
Lydia
Hey....Love this! I am blessed to live a single life that has been so fulfilling. I think...This whole time of being single God has worked so many things in me, out for the best. He has taken things that were not from Him and replaced them with His character. He has made me a brand new creation. If I was not single, I would of had to walk through these tough things with my husband, but instead was able to walk through them with just God. And...I believe that God has done the same for my "discipled" husband who is on the way!
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Hi Lamay! You are an incredible Proverbs 31 woman and a joy to watch.
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Lydia